Words That Help: How to Talk to Someone You’re Worried About
When someone you love is struggling, finding the right words can feel overwhelming. You may worry about saying the wrong thing, or you may be tempted to avoid the conversation altogether. But silence can leave someone feeling even more isolated. Talking with care and compassion is one of the most powerful ways to support someone in pain.
What to Say (and What to Avoid)
Helpful phrases:
“I have noticed you seem more quiet than usual. How are you doing?”
“I care about you, and I am here if you want to talk.”
“You are not alone in this. I want to support you however I can.”
Phrases to avoid:
“It could be worse,” or “Other people have it harder.”
“Just snap out of it,” or “Think positive.”
“You’re overreacting.”
Invalidating comments can deepen shame. Instead, offer words that show empathy and openness.
How to Create Safety Without Judgment
Your tone and body language matter just as much as your words. Sit without distractions, listen more than you speak, and resist the urge to “fix” immediately. Let them know they are safe with you by showing patience and avoiding judgment.
Scripts for Compassionate Check-Ins
“I wanted to check in because I care about you. How are you feeling today?”
“I do not want to assume, but I sense you might be going through a hard time. Would you like to share what’s been on your mind?”
“You do not have to go through this alone. Talking might help. What feels most supportive for you right now?”
When and How to Refer to Therapy or a Hotline
Sometimes, a compassionate conversation is enough to help someone feel lighter. Other times, professional support is essential. You can gently suggest therapy or a hotline when:
The person expresses hopelessness or thoughts of self-harm
Their daily life is being disrupted by sadness, anxiety, or stress
They seem unable to cope despite trying
Ways to phrase it:
“Have you thought about talking with a therapist? It could give you a safe space to process this.”
“There are free hotlines that can connect you with someone right away if you are ever in crisis. Can I share one with you?”
If you are in the U.S. and someone is in immediate crisis, encourage them to dial 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Final Thought
You do not need the perfect words. What matters most is showing up with empathy, consistency, and care. A small check-in can be the start of someone finding their way back to hope.
Feel free to download and share our Suicide Prevention Resource Guide with your loved ones.
👉 Suicide Prevention Resource Guide (PDF Download)